I’ve been getting into these moods lately, where I just want to curl up in a ball and shelter myself from the world. I’ve been so stressed, so depressed, so alone, that I just want to be on a deserted island, isolated from everyone and everything. I know, I sound somber, but oh would it be nice. Just because I say I want to curl up in a ball, and stay in bed watching re-runs of Greys Anatomy, while eating a tub of Friendly’s Forbidden Chocolate ice cream doesn’t mean I actually do it. Although I’m stressed and would LOVE to do all the above, I can’t. I cannot dwell on what’s bothering me, because hey, I live in reality. I deal with a few coping mechanisms, and dust myself off, ready to face what’s ahead of me.
Dealing with stress varies from person to person. I went from crying my eyes out every night, too finding new healthy ways to cope. I found that the healthier ways work better and I just think that crying myself to sleep takes too much out of me. Plus, I wake up with swollen eyes and nobody likes that.
- Keep a stress diary
I know this sounds weird, but it DOES work, especially if you’re a visual person. I find that writing down what’s wrong allows you to visually look at the problem as well as a reliever to get off what’s on your mind. (This especially works for stress about financial situations)
Go for a walk with someone and talk to him/her about what’s bothering you, or even go by yourself to clear your mind. ( I like going alone)
- Take a hot bath or a long hot shower
One of the most relaxed ways to unwind and de-stress
- Get more sleep
I usually try to go to sleep by 9:30/10:00 if I’m stressed. Just so I clear my mind and don’t have to think about what’s bothering me. Plus it’s good for the body
- Be positive
I try to tell myself that things can be a lot worse, and try to think of the bright side. I misplace the words can’t and won’t with will and might and as cheesy as it sounds, it definitely relieves a little bit off me
Accept that you can’t control everything, and think to yourself, is this as bad as you think?
Yes, these basic mechanisms do work. I’ve been stressed out for about 3 days, where the “old” me would have been stressed out for over a week. I’ve been using these methods to calm myself and de-stress, and am happy to say it has worked. I am now stress free and am finally back to my happy, chipper self! ---oh, and it’s OKAY to have a cheat day, especially when you’re stressed! Just don’t make it a cheat week! I definitely take the opportunity to use my cheat day wisely, but also remember what my goals and priorities are.